From an early age, many of us learned how to pose, please, and polish. We were complimented for being quiet, rewarded for being polite, and praised when we were pretty. But rarely were we taught to be present— in our bodies, our emotions, or our desires. ???? The Performance Begins Early Being “pretty” wasn’t just about appearanc
Before we ever choose how to express ourselves sexually, many of us are already living out a script — one we didn’t write. It’s written by culture, religion, media, family, and gender roles. It tells us what desire should look like, who is allowed to feel it, and under what conditions it’s acceptable. ???? The Inheritance of Sexua
There’s a rush—a powerful, intoxicating feeling— when someone looks at us and says, “You matter. I want you.” Being chosen can light us up inside, filling a deep hunger for acceptance and belonging. ⚡ The Buzz of Validation Validation feels like a drug because it triggers pleasure centers in the brain, releasing dopamine—th
Consent is often thought of as a clear “yes” or “no,” a boundary that must be crossed or respected. But real consent lives in the subtle spaces in between — in the dance of touch, presence, and mutual respect. ???? The Complexity of Consent Consent isn’t just about permission to act. It’s about honoring the whole person —
Intimacy is often described as a safe space— a place where vulnerability is welcomed, and trust allows us to lower our defenses. But what happens when being close feels like danger? When the very act meant to soothe instead lights up our nervous system in alarm? ⚠️ The Body’s Alarm Bells For many, intimacy doesn’t automatically